Personality Quiz! What's Your Attachment Style In Relationships?

Secure individuals tend to have good self-esteem and you find it easy to share your feelings and opinions with others. You are trusting, easy to understand, open and approachable. You find it easy to make decisions and ask for help or support when in need. Will seek to connect with others while remaining realistic to what a relationship will provide to you. You are not looking for someone to save you or completely transform your life. You generally don't play games, but seek to establish uncomplicated and mutually beneficial relationships.

You love to be close to your partners and have the capacity for great intimacy. Relationships tend to take up much of your thoughts and drain you of emotional energy. You often fear that your partner does not wish to be as close as you would like them to be. You have deep-seated fears that you will be rejected, which makes you worried and overly clingy. You tend to be very helpful or charming towards others. You tend to be very sensitive to small fluctuations in your partner's moods and actions. Your senses are often accurate, however you feel you are mostly the root cause of your partner's behavior and are prone to blaming yourself for problems. As a result you tend to act out and say things you later regret. You are more used to finding indirect methods of getting your needs met. This could be through hinting, manipulation or demands.

You are often drawn to avoidant individuals but would suit a relationship with a secure individual much more. Choosing the right partner and learning to overcome your fears will help you move towards a secure attachment style.

Someone secure or anxious has a basic wish to be close; with someone avoidant that basic desire is missing. While you have a need for attachment and love, you tend to feel trapped when things get too close. You learned to disconnect from your emotions when young and deny your needs, therefore will be uncomfortable with emotional closeness. Quite happy to keep deepest feelings and views to yourself you will guard your privacy. Very independent and value autonomy. With avoidants everyday interactions and conversations, whether they're about which channel to watch on TV or how to raise the kids, can become negotiations for space and independence. Likely to use repression of emotions to deal with stress. Will use indirect forms of communication when trying to get needs met, like sulking. A typical response to conflict is to become aloof and distant.

Often the feelings you have learned to deny or repress are anxious therefore under extreme relationship stress you are prone to move towards anxious tendancies.

You are often drawn to anxious individuals but would suit a relationship with a secure individual much more. Though anxious types will be more wiling to take on the burden of a relationship your style of relating will bring out their overbearing side which will activate all your avoidant triggers. Choosing the right partner and learning to overcome your fears will help you move towards a secure attachment style.

Fearful-avoidants recognize a need for intimacy and close relations with others, but as soon as you start to get close to others, you find that you have mixed feelings about the whole ordeal and start fantasizing about breaking it off because you "want your space again." Not happy being alone or in a close relationship, a combination of anxious and avoidant tendencies. You have learnt defences to keep others close and available, yet at the same time out of control and powerless to harm you. Often high-achieving and competent adults, but on the inside, tend to suffer from periodic bouts of low self-esteem and be plagued by a sense of hollowness at your core. Frequently you are good at finding legitimate fault with others and sniffing out their weaknesses as a form of protection, but on the downside, this hypervigilance also tends to lead to skepticism and overly paranoid tendencies.

You are best suited to a relationship with a secure individual and should ensure that you and your partner are fully aware of the fears that you have. Choosing the right partner and learning to overcome your fears will help you move towards a secure attachment style.