Find Out: How Is Your Relationship REALLY Doing?

Sometimes we all need to pause and check our relationship's pulse, don't you think? Take this quiz to figure out where you and your partner stand at the moment.

"You are always so ____!"

"Don't eat that."

"You can't do anything right."

"Nevermind, I'll do it."

"You're so stupid."

"You've really let yourself go."

"If you love me, you will _____."

"You are crazy."

"I'm not good enough for you."

"You're being over dramatic."

"Shut up."

"You don't really love me."

"We'll break up then."

"I don't believe you."

"I told you so."

"Do I look like the maid/babysitter/waiter?"

"My ex would have done this for me."

"What did you do all day?"

"You're remembering it wrong."

"I hate you."

You relationship can really use some goodwill.

You relationship can really use some goodwill.

It seems that you are pulling away from each other. You both might believe that conflict is a "bad" thing, but you are aware of your many differences. You fight to draw boundaries in the relationship, and as a result even small annoyances become big issues. This is the stage where you define unacceptable behavior, and most couples have occasional or frequent thoughts of leaving the relationship. More and more often, you start to feel like your partner is self-centered or un-caring, or even worse, that they can't be trusted. Deep resentments can build if you're unable to resolve your issues in a respectful way.

You relationship is deepening and you need to pay attention

You relationship is deepening and you need to pay attention

This is where you begin to realize that your partner is actually a human being. You get to know each other more and more, and as a result you start recognizing their shortcomings. You see your partner in relaxed situations, and you become more relaxed as well. Your partner's little habits aren't quite as cute as they used to be, but there is still enough goodwill that you're willing to overlook them. This stage can start to trickle into your relationship slowly, as you begin to see your partner for who s/he really is.

You relationship is doing great!

You relationship is doing great!

Both you and your partner have a clear notion of who their partner is, all faults and weaknesses, yet you make a conscious choice to be with this person in spite of all of those things (and in some cases, because of those things). You are no longer with your partner because you need them, but because you've chosen them. If you've made it to this stage, you and your partner are a team. You genuinely love your partner, and you look out for their best interests just as much as you look out for your own. Your partner is your best friend.