GET YOUR ENGINE PURRING
GET YOUR ENGINE PURRING
Take our quiz to find out whether your sex drive is in fifth gear… or first
Take our quiz to find out whether your sex drive is in fifth gear… or first
How often do you take “private time” to pleasure yourself?
How often do you notice attractive men/women on TV or in real life?
How often do you read about sex – whether it’s a saucy erotic novel or researching new positions?
4.Describe what we’d find in your underwear drawer.
5.How regularly do you “sext” with your partner?
How often do you think about having sex?
How is your libido affected when you’re stressed?
How healthy would you say you are?
How do you feel about your body?
What sort of sexual fantasies do you have?
When was the last time you had an orgasm?
How would you describe your diet?
When you exercise, your main motivation is:
Do you ever watch pornography?
Which of the following would you choose over sex?
You're in overdrive
You're in overdrive
KATE SAYS: Your sexual motto is, “MORE!” To you, lovemaking is fun, therapy and cardio rolled into one.
Your libido has scared partners away but you need someone who can keep up. You think of new things to try.
Give yourself a sexual service by ensuring your emotional and sexual needs are in sync. Sometimes we use sex as a way to get through relationship issues without dealing with them.
If you switch partners frequently, care more about what’s inside his or her underwear than in their heart, or constantly fantasise about ever-wilder experiences, you might be using sex to avoid intimacy.
If so, slow down, cuddle more after sex and talk more about real feelings. Sex gets even hotter when there’s an emotional connection too.
You're stuck in neutral
You're stuck in neutral
KATE SAYS: Your sexual motto is: “Go on, then.” You enjoy regular sex but it’s just that – regular. You’re stuck in a rut. You know what works for you now, but your trusty old positions could go from so-hot to so-so.
Crank up the gears by trying out new moves. Get inspired by reading sexy blogs or swipe through some sex toy websites to find gadgets you can enjoy alone and with your partner.
Rearranging the time and place you have sex can freshen things up.
Have you, for example, christened every room in your house? If not, start tonight.
And don’t be afraid to share fantasies with your other half. Make a promise that 2018 is the year to make dreams come true.
You're low on gas
You're low on gas
KATE SAYS: Your sexual motto is: “Persuade me.” After a hot date or glass of bubbly you feel frisky but sex isn’t usually on your radar. It’s not that you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling, just that real life has got in the way.
Refuel by making sex a chance to feel good about yourself. Buy underwear that flaunts your best bits and replace glaring bedroom lighting with candles.
Extend foreplay. You need more time for your body to reach arousal, so ensure your partner kisses and strokes your whole body before you get to third base.
If their technique isn’t working for you, read a sexy manual together – my Domestic Sex Goddess is perfect for couples – or show him how you like to be touched.
You've stalled
You've stalled
KATE SAYS: Your sexual motto is: “Must I?” Your idea of a hot night is cranking up the electric blanket.
If you’re in a couple, this could seriously threaten your relationship.Rev the engine by thinking back to the last time you felt in the mood.
Has a major life event or emotional trauma changed how you feel? Counselling could help.
Or maybe your hormones changed – contraception or HRT can help balance you. Medication could have killed your libido, too.
But if there’s just been a slow decline, get back in touch with yourself – literally. For women, apps like OMGYes or HappyPlayTime suggest techniques.
Discuss with your partner how you would like to start having sex again.Start with massages and cuddling.