By working on a few skills you can feel closer to your husband than you ever imagined!

A manual is just an unspoken set of guidelines that we put in place over the years. We have manuals for how we think all of our loved ones should act. The problem is, when they don't follow our manual (that they aren't even aware of) we get hurt. I know you feel justified in having these expectations, but they are causing you pain. You are allowing your happiness to be dictated by some one else's behavior. This is never a good idea, because we can't control anyone else. If we decide to feel love no matter what, that's when we take control of our own happiness and just love the other person exactly as they are. Sound tough? You just need to learn the tools that enable you to choose love, no matter what your husband does or doesn't do.
PS- Your husband has a manual for you too. Would you like him to give you a list of guidelines and tell you that you must follow them in order for him to feel love for you?

Ever wonder why two marriages could experience the same event and one comes out even stronger, while the other is completely torn apart? It's because of how the couple chooses to think and act after the event has occurred.
If you want to be the very best wife you can possibly be (in any situation), you must watch what you are thinking about your husband on a daily basis. If you constantly think he is a jerk, you will likely feel a lot of resentment. When you feel resentful you probably won't act kind or loving toward him. In the end, you will not be the wife you always hoped you'd be. You might even start to act like a jerk toward him.... Want to be the best wife you can be? It just takes a few simple tools and you can be in control of your thoughts and how you feel! You'll be creating all the loving feelings you've been craving, as you choose loving thoughts about your husband every day. You might think he doesn't deserve it, but YOU deserve to feel love.

Every time we choose to be angry or disappointed in someone, we are choosing to feel anger or disappointment inside our own bodies. These emotions do not feel good. It is a painful choice. But we pretend it isn’t a choice. We pretend we don’t have any control over how we feel toward someone else, and instead we act as if their actions control how we feel. It is a terrible idea to give control of your happiness to someone else. What if you learned how to feel love whenever you wanted to feel love? Unconditional love is not for saints or people who sacrifice; it’s for anyone who wants to feel amazing.  Thinking about unconditional love in this way allows you to take your marriage to the next level. In fact, you have the option to feel any way you want, at any time; any feeling is always available to you. What emotion do you want to start feeling more of in your marriage? You just need to learn a few simple tools to start feeling amazing in your marriage every day!

Many of us have experienced hurt in our relationships, that cause us pain. What’s fun is to look at your past as if it were perfect. It happened exactly as it was supposed to and there were no mistakes; just lessons and preparation. There is no reason to argue with the past or wish it were different. It is a waste of emotional energy. Instead, take that energy and focus on your future—something you can have an impact on. What do you want your marriage to be like 5 years down the road? What do you want to think about your husband moving forward? How do you want to feel about him? Start thinking and feeling those things now, and you are sure to take action that will allow you to be the wife you want to be now. In order to create what you want in your marriage, start fresh. Sound like it might not be that simple? It just takes some commitment, the right tools, and a little bit of guidance and you can create the future you have always wanted for your marriage.