10 Ways To Stop DATING Losers

Stop dating an idea. Sometimes we might meet people and be completely swept off our feet by the image of what we think we want. You might often think, “he is so hot”, or “our babies would look beautiful”, but after this initial infatuation, do certain questions pose like “oh, he is a bit broken, I could fix him” or “he suffers a bit from depression, I could make him happy.” Stop right there because you are picking a project and not a person.

Stop dating guys who work too hard. If a guy is more into his job than he is you, he will never give you the attention that he needs. It is great to be with someone who is ambitious but analyze where he puts his priorities. Does he make time for you or does he just spend money on you?

Stay away from history repeating itself. If you are from a dysfunctional family, does the guy resemble anything similar to your family? We often tend to repeat the past and being with someone that echoes our own childhood can seem easy and familiar. However, if you are looking to snap out of that habit and have a better and more positive family than you have had, let it go, there are plenty of people who are emotional stable and fixed. You don’t need to repeat history.

Stay away from 'potential' people. You see huge potential in this guy but he just isn’t quite there yet. You love a project-let’s face it, and often we can meet guys who are struggling to get to where they want to be. You feel like you can be the rock or inspiration for this potential and make them reach their fullest. Stop lying to yourself. You will be wasting more energy on him than on yourself so get out while you can.

Stay away from men who have an unsteady past and have repeated habits. Listen to what a guy says about his past. Has he never had a long term relationship? Does he have a number of kids from different women? Can he hold down a job? Engaging in the conversation with your potential partner is important and his past can show a lot of red light or warning signs. Be wary and make sure you see amber and green before going ahead.

Stop dating guys who bore you. You don’t need to be with someone safe. You will end up feeling really unsatisfied after a while. Sometimes we often end up with men that approach us and we are attracted to them because they are attracted to us. Think about it, when was the last time that you went out and made the first move?

Stop dating guys who can’t commit. You have been seeing each other for over 6 months but he still can’t make it official. It is time to cut the cord. You are a fabulous being and if you are into the guy and he can’t make a compromise to what you need, don’t waste any more energy and time on him. The world is full of wonderful men so start exploring and find someone who values your energy.

Stop dating guys who are too into their phones. A man spends more time looking at his phone than he does into your eyes. You don’t need to date a robot. Make sure you engage with someone who can have a two-way conversation face to face. This digital age is making monsters of us all but stick to your faith and find someone who keeps you on the tip of your toes.

Stop dating guys who are in relationships. You can sometimes fall into a bad habit of choosing the 'unavailable' guy. This is a red line from the off set. If you are with someone who is lying to their partner, they will lie to you too in most cases. Men often want it all and by you adhering to this idea, you are simply allowing him to have it all.

Try to steer clear of the wonderfully passionate but damaged ones. Although you might get swept up in the exciting feeling of lust and emotion, remember that however high something can go, it can also come crashing down. Often we are led by these exciting emotions. Think about your partner and if you can see this becoming an obsession where you lose yourself or not.