Are You Fulfilling Your Psychological Role At The Thanksgiving Table?

What is your true role in the family according to your psyche? Find out before you sit down for the feast!

Elizabeth Derryberry
On Nov 22, 2016

First off - Where does Thanksgiving rank amongst your favorite holidays?

This image makes you feel...

Which Friend do you see the most of yourself in?

Do you consider Thanksgiving historically viable?

Your family knows you for...

Aside from "Thankfulness" - What one word do you associate with Thanksgiving the most?

What do you usually contribute to the feast?

Where do you usually sit at the Thanksgiving table?

Christmas or Halloween?

The Healer

The Healer

Every family has broken bonds, and you are the one who shows up ready to heal them. If any rifts exist before Thanksgiving, you step in to make sure they're reconciled before the food hits the table. Your family looks to you for companionship and love, and you respond in kind. Sometimes it's very easy for such family gatherings to fall apart - and without you they would. It may be exhausting at times, but healing those family bonds is extremely important, and what you are meant to do. Happy Thanksgiving and thanks for all that you do for your family!

The Mediator

The Mediator

Where would your family be without you? Thanksgiving is a time of togetherness, and whether you know it or not - you are responsible for many of the familial bonds still holding to this day. Every family has turmoil - and as the mediator you should be (or are already) keeping quite a few fragile bonds from completely shattering. Whenever the family's instigators, outsiders, and authority figures start clashing you should be the one who keeps the entire gathering from collapsing. You're a master of mediation and relationships, and can't stand the thought of your family falling apart (if you can help it). Happy Thanksgiving - get ready!

The Instigator

The Instigator

Were you expecting anything else? Thanksgiving has a long standing history of being entertaining, if not a bit irritating, for you. Sure, it's great to see family and eat all the excellent free food - but it's REALLY about your role as the family's instigator. It wouldn't be a family gathering without witty banter and/or picking on the usual targets. Someone has to keep things interesting, right? This is your calling. Your wit should never go to waste, and as much as your family may act like it annoys them - they wouldn't have it any other way. Well, don't hold us to that - but keep at it. It's what you're meant to do!

The Nurturer

The Nurturer

Ah, Thanksgiving. The time of year when you're either A.) Expected to cook an entire feast in a short amount of time, B.) Assemble relatives at mass, C.) Host everything at your house, or D.) All of the above + twelve other things. Sound familiar? That's because this is your psychological role in the family! Is it a hassle? of course. But do you love it? Absolutely. Nurturing is in your blood and your family looks up to you, and depends on your love and support. This is no small thing. Every family needs at least one matriarchal figure and you are one of - if not THE - that the holiday depends on to be successful, meaningful, and full of love. No pressure, right? Better get to it because it's that time of year again! Happy Thanksgiving - and thank you for all that you do for your family!

The Outsider

The Outsider

You either 100% expected this - or it may be a bit of a shock.

The thought of a traditional family gathering makes you uncomfortable to begin with, so Thanksgiving comes as more of a mandatory "let's see the relatives either now or at Christmas (please not both) and eat free food" kind of ordeal. You're not disrespectful - you just aren't really the type to want to be surrounded by the crazy that is your family. You bring a much needed gravitas (with a dash of cynicism) to the table, and are needed to balance out the ordeal, whether you like it or not. So don't skip out! Show up, say your hellos, eat, then be on your way!

The Authority

The Authority

There are two must-haves in every family: 1.) The Matriarch, and 2.) The Authority figure... And when it comes to Thanksgiving, you are the psychological head of the table and the law and order. Your family looks to you for guidance, support, and carving the turkey - but most of all you are necessary for the entire holiday to succeed. If it weren't for you, there would be no final decisions made, no location picked, and no true sense of "urgency to gather" for the entire family. Sound about right? You are the glue, so no matter how frustrating your family may be - don't give up on them! They need you... and you just may like it that way! Happy Thanksgiving!