What Stage Of Love Are You At In Your Relationship?

According to science, there are 5 stages of love. Do you know which stage you're at in your current relationship?

Calypso Kofae
Created By Calypso Kofae
On Mar 24, 2019

Do you share a home with your partner?

Relationships are work. True or false?

Pick a word that best describes your relationship:

What's the biggest struggle in your relationship?

When things get tough, do you consider leaving your partner?

How important is sex to you?

Can you see yourself raising a family with your partner?

Stage 1: Falling in Love

Stage 1: Falling in Love

Falling in love also feels great because you project all your hopes and dreams on your lover. You imagine that they will fulfill your desires, give you all the things you didn’t get as a child, deliver on all the promises your earlier relationships failed to fulfill. You are sure you will remain in love forever.

Stage 2: Becoming a Couple

Stage 2: Becoming a Couple

During this phase you experience less of the falling head-over heals “in love” feelings. You feel more bonded with your partner. You feel warm and cuddly. The sex may not be as wild, but it’s deeply satisfying. You feel safe, cared for, cherished, and appreciated. You feel close and protected. You often think this is the ultimate level of love and you expect it to go on forever.

Stage 3: Perseverance

Stage 3: Perseverance

No one told us about Stage 3 in understanding love and relationships.

You're going through a period where things begin to feel bad. It can occur slowly or can feel like a switch is flipped and everything goes wrong. Little things begin to bother you. You feel less loved and cared for. You may also feel trapped and want to escape.

One or the other partner wants out or sometimes you just want to go on “existing together,” but without really feeling intimate.
This is a maturing love that tests your relationship but if you persevere will pay off tenfold.

Stage 4: Creating Real, Lasting Love

Stage 4: Creating Real, Lasting Love

There’s nothing more satisfying than being with a partner who sees you and loves you for who you are. They understand that your hurtful behavior is not because you are mean and unloving, but because you have been wounded in the past and the past still lives with you. As you better understand and accept your partner, you can learn to love yourself and each other ever more deeply.

Stage 5: Using the Power of Two to Change the World

Stage 5: Using the Power of Two to Change the World

You've learned to overcome your differences and find real, lasting love in your relationship, and now you want to work together to find real, lasting love in the world. You finally reached the point in your relationship where you have an opportunity to use the “power of two” to address some aspect of the world’s problems that touch their lives.