What Does This Love Language Test Say About You?

Take our love language test and find out now which love language you speak in your relationship!

Lara Kosheez
Created by Lara Kosheez
On Jan 3, 2017

After a long and tough week, you come home from work. What do you want MOST from you partner?

When you are in an emotional place, you want your partner to...?

When your partner is emotional and going through something difficult, your first instinct is to...? (go with your honest and first response here to get an accurate result)

You find that your relationship gets out of balance if you don't get enough?

You and your partner have an argument. Which of the following pictures melts your heart and makes you want to forgive him/her?

You are happiest in your relationship when your partner...?

Your lovers in the past have told you that you are...?

And finally, your partner has to go away on business for three months. You want to spend your last evening having him/her...?

Physical Touch

Physical Touch

In relationships, you thrive most when you receive a lot of physical affection from your partner. It doesn't necessarily have to be lovemaking (although that is a way you strongly connect with your loved one); you feel most secure and loved when your partner gives you hugs, comes up to you for no reason to kiss you, and dotes on you physically. Chances are highly likely that this is how you show your love to your partner in a relationship. You still love to spend quality time with your partner, and verbal praise is important to you as well. Who doesn't love a bouquet of fresh flowers, or a romantic dinner? Out of the five love languages you simply thrive most with a partner who is physically affectionate and loves to cuddle and be intimate often. Now, share this knowledge with your partner so he/she knows how to love you best!

Words of Affirmation

Words of Affirmation

You need words of praise, and often. You thrive most in a relationship where your partner tells you often how important you are to him/her and expresses love through verbal and written praise. To you it never gets old hearing, "I love you, you are beautiful, and so very strong." But other words of praise are needed to. When you do something special for your partner, you do best when he/she acknowledges your action with a thank you, and verbal acknowledgement of how special that was for him or her. Chances are highly likely that you give a lot of verbal praise to your partner (and loved ones), because this is how you feel most loved yourself. Now, have a talk with your partner and see if he/she needs to modify any behaviors to make you feel more loved and appreciated! Pass this quiz along to him/her so you can understand his/her needs as well!

Acts of Service

Acts of Service

The best way to describe this distinct love language is by "showing love through action." You thrive most in a relationship where your partner does special things for you often, and sometimes out of the blue. It could be by helping you around the house with cleaning or by cooking, or by doing something more romantic, like taking you on a surprise get away to a city you both love. Acts of service can be simple and small... It is the gesture that makes you feel most loved. Who doesn't love a bouquet of fresh flowers (picked from the park), or a cup of hot tea- your favorite! It's not to say you don't need verbal praise or physical affection... you just need acts of service more. You most likely do unexpected and kind things for your partner, because this is how you like to receive love the most yourself. So... is your partner doing these acts of service? Now that you know, let him/her in on the secret so you can have a greater sense of intimacy!

Receiving Gifts

Receiving Gifts

This is a very important love language, and no it does not make you shallow! Receiving gifts is a love language that is often misunderstood... don't fret, we will go over it! You feel most loved in a relationship when your partner takes notice of things you like, and randomly expresses that love through gift giving. The gift does not have to be jewelry or something expensive; it is the gesture that makes you feel most loved. If you have a favorite coffee, it means the world to you if your partner takes the extra trip to your favorite coffee shop to get you a bag. Or if he/she notices that you have a favorite lotion, he/she gets you an extra one while he/she is out running errands. Chances are pretty high that you give small gifts as an act of love yourself... because this is how you like to be loved. Share this result with your partner, and learn his/her unique love language!

Quality Time

Quality Time

You do best in a relationship when your partner spends quality time with you. We all know that feeling of getting comfortable in a relationship, and noticing the romance slipping away. For you, you feel most loved when your partner sets aside special time for you, and takes the initiative to plan something out of the ordinary. It's not to say you don't need verbal praise or physical affection in your relationship, you most certainly do! You just feel most cared for when your partner can turn that TV off and be truly present with you! Chances are likely that you plan things for you and your partner, like date nights, and trips, because you need the quality time with him/her. Now is your chance to let him/her in on the secret that you would like him/her to plan quality time for you both! Share this quiz so your partner can better understand how you need to be loved, and learn his/her unique love language too!

Physical Touch/Words of Affirmation

Physical Touch/Words of Affirmation

So you don't quite fit into one category, who knew? Most people need a mixture of the love languages, and yours is in needing verbal praise/affirmations from your partner and physical intimacy as well. You thrive most in a relationship where your partner gives you a fair amount of verbal praise and words of affirmation (for example; "You are so important to me," and "I appreciate all that you do"). Equally you need your partner to dote on you physically. You probably notice that at certain times you need more of one than the other. Chances are more than good that you show your love to your partner by these two methods. Giving and receiving physical affection can be romantic or not... hugs and cuddling are just as important as sexual intimacy (sometimes more so). And words of praise can come in a card or a note that your loved one leaves you before he/she takes off to work. Now, does your partner know all of this? Share this quiz and he/she will know, and you can learn his/her unique love language!

Acts of Service/Words of Affirmation

Acts of Service/Words of Affirmation

You have a mixture of two love languages. Most people in fact do need a mix. These are the two that make you feel most loved. Acts of service are things that your partner does to show you his/her love. It could be small, like helping you around the house with cleaning, or cooking meals. Or it could be something more romantic, like hiring someone to renovate the master bedroom into an oasis, for you both to spend time together in. The other piece you need to feel most loved is to hear words of affirmation and praise from your loved one. It never gets old being told that you are beautiful, and in difficult times, it is especially essential that you get affirmation and validation from your partner that you are strong and appreciated for all the hard work that you do. Now, do you know your partner's love language? Share this quiz with him/her and find out. It could deepen your relationship profoundly!

Quality Time/Words of Affirmation

Quality Time/Words of Affirmation

So you got a mix... not a surprise! Most people in fact need a mixture of love languages, and this combination fits you best. You thrive from quality time with your partner. It could mean a picnic for just the two of you (without distractions), so you can spend special time together, or it could be something smaller, like your partner turning the TV off when you walk in the door, to spend time with you after a hard day at work. It is highly likely that you are the one currently, who plans special time for you and your partner, because it is one way you feel most loved in a relationship. The other way in which you feel most loved is by verbal praise and affirmations from your partner. You need to be told, fairly often, that you are important, and why. Combine the two acts together and you are in heaven! So the next time your loved one asks you what he/she can do for you... tell him/her, "Plan some special quality time for us and write down 10 reasons why you love me." If your partner already loves you in the ways you need, perhaps share this quiz with him/her to understand if you are loving your partner in the ways he/she needs to be most loved!