Are You a Freedom Based Lover?

The Passion Based Lover prioritizes just that: passion.

Physical attractiveness is valued highly, and sex is a priority.

These lovers tend to have shorter relationships, often getting restless as that initial spike of excitement that fuels them begins to fade after just a few weeks or months of time make that fun “newness” of a relationship just a normal part of life.

The resulting nagging feeling that something is wrong can lead to the end of relationship after relationship. They love the fire that attracted them to the relationship to begin with, but long-term commitment can be difficult for these lovers.

The Passion Based Lover, without this awareness, will have shorter relationships, spend more time single, and at the extreme, may not have the opportunity to experience a long-term relationship at all, even if it's something they desire.

BUT if they're willing to dive into their motivations and intentions, these lovers can bloom into extremely passionate and committed lovers very rapidly, experiencing that same passion, but in a consistent and long-term relationship with someone who really loves them for them.

The Freedom Based Lover prioritizes fulfillment and keeps a healthy balance of love and freedom.

They not only get the satisfaction of getting their personal needs met, and achieving what they want to achieve in life, but also get the joy of being in a committed relationship with someone who loves them for them, without the pressure of expectation.

These lovers are typically knowledgable, experienced, or both. It takes a lot of practical understanding about relationships to avoid the pitfalls that many others fall into, and to stand strong against the urge to unconsciously mold themselves into all of their partner’s minor preferences.

The Freedom Based Lover is conscious of the impact their actions have on themselves and others, and are creators, rather than reactors.

Because of their wisdom and experience, the freedom based lovers tend to create the relationships that others want.

While they love their partners, they'd never give up their core identity for the relationship, which is exactly why the passion and spark may have it's ups and downs, but never dies.

These relationships tend to be both happier and longer-lasting because of the understanding that personal freedom and love can truly go hand in hand.

The Freedom Based Lover prioritizes fulfillment and keeps a healthy balance of love and freedom.

They not only get the satisfaction of getting their personal needs met, and achieving what they want to achieve in life, but also get the joy of being in a committed relationship with someone who loves them for them, without the pressure of expectation.

These lovers are typically knowledgable, experienced, or both. It takes a lot of practical understanding about relationships to avoid the pitfalls that many others fall into, and to stand strong against the urge to unconsciously mold themselves into all of their partner’s minor preferences.

The Freedom Based Lover is conscious of the impact their actions have on themselves and others, and are creators, rather than reactors.

Because of their wisdom and experience, the freedom based lovers tend to create the relationships that others want.

While they love their partners, they'd never give up their core identity for the relationship, which is exactly why the passion and spark may have it's ups and downs, but never dies. They understand that their mild friction in the streets creates wild friction in the sheets.

These relationships tend to be both happier and longer-lasting because of the understanding that personal freedom and love can truly go hand in hand.

The Should Based Lover prioritizes what’s right.

They’ve read a lot. They’ve studied dating and relationships, and have it all figured out.

Except, when they get out of the books and into a relationship, the concepts aren’t as simple or applicable as they imagined them to be. It can become easy to blame their partners for the friction in the relationship, because they can’t see what they could possibly be doing wrong.

What they often don’t see until later along their dating journey is that there is no right or wrong, and that a lasting partnership can’t come from tips and tactics, because in order to find someone who loves them, they have to BE them, or their ideal matches will mistake them to be someone else and simply pass them by.

Finding themselves in long and awkward silences is common, as they figure out what’s the “best” thing to say.

Still, for someone just getting themselves out into the dating world, having a strategy can give them the confidence they need to hone their conversation skills and to really understand themselves. Nearly everyone spends time as a should based lover, and transitions into one of the other types as their identity solidifies and their confidence rises.

They’re nice, lovable, and doing their absolute best. And really, that’s all that matters.

Putting their concepts to the test, and challenging their beliefs on what it means to be a good lover is often enough to snap them out of their head and into the arms of a partner who loves them for them.