Are you a giver, or a taker, or do you have a healthy balance between the two?
Are you a giver, or a taker, or do you have a healthy balance between the two?
Answer 8 questions to find out if you,
1) need to establish and enforce your personal boundaries or,
2) need to back off and stop pushing other peoples boundaries or,
3) you have a healthy balance between being a giver and taker.
Answer 8 questions to find out if you,
1) need to establish and enforce your personal boundaries or,
2) need to back off and stop pushing other peoples boundaries or,
3) you have a healthy balance between being a giver and taker.
I enjoy getting what I want, and base my friendships on how much people will do for you.
Some people call you flaky or unreliable because you often cancel out on commitments and change plans at the last moment.
I love to give advice and my friends often come to me for help.
I would never or at least rarely have ever asked someone who owed me something, to pay me back.
Do you get irritated when people stand their ground and say NO to you?
You feel you do lots for other people, AND no one seems to really appreciate your efforts.
I never or rarely ever ask people for help.
I would never pick up the tab for all my friends. I'd run to the toilet or leave to avoid paying.
You are a giver
You are a giver
Congratulations you are a giver at heart and you love to make people feel good. However, you need to communicate better your own personal limits and not try to please everyone all or even some of the time. It is Ok to say No to people when they ask you things you really don't want to do. It is so important be honest about what you want and what you can do with or for other people, than to stretch yourself and try to make everyone happy. Advice: Take timeout to quietly reflect on what you will or will not do for other people, set personal priorities and enforce them for your own well-being.
You are taker
You are taker
Congratulations you are a taker! You are energetic and a real go getter. However, you often only think of your own needs and either consciously or subconsciously base relationships on what people can offer you. You may be putting your needs onto people around you. You never offer anything to anyone unless there is some benefit to you either now or in the future. You have difficulty being open and seeing things from other people's view point. Advice: Be more sensitive to other people's needs. Do something for someone just because and do it without any strings attached. Volunteer, help a person in need. The gift you receive back will far exceed any tangible reward.
You have a good balance between taker and giver.
You have a good balance between taker and giver.
Well done! You are in the middle which means you are a bit of a giver and a bit of a taker. This is a healthy balance. You know when to give freely and yet you also know when to take care of your own needs. You are able to set healthy personal boundaries for yourself, and yet still have meaningful and authentic relationships with others.